Do you know these times when just everything falls into place? When so much good comes into your life that you don’t know what to say?
I must share something with you today.
After this incredible week I learnt three important lessons we all must learn in life.
Here they are, sweet and simple.
You and I have dreams.
You and I have ambitions.
And you and I have doubts.
Doubts of ever making it, doubts of our goals, doubts of ourselves.
Do you also know these doubts?
Now let me tell you something.
All these doubts have one common denominator.
It’s the FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH.
We all are guilty of this, and I fail at overcoming it many many times.
“Who am I to give advice? Who am I to build a business? Who am I to write a book? Who am I to change something in the world?”
Do these questions resonate with you?
Take a deep breath.
And give me an honest answer:
WHY NOT YOU?
Why not you to build a business? You have ideas, experiences, skills and talents nobody else has in this world. Go and create something to add value to the world! Because you can!
Why not you to write a book? You have a voice nobody else has. You have a view that’s refreshing to this world. Go and write that book! The world waits to hear your voice and your song needs to be sung! Go do it. Because you can!
Why not you to coach someone? You have a story nobody else has and experiences nobody else has made. To you you may not seem great enough to give someone advice, but there is this one person who looks up to you, a person who needs advice you have. Go and share it. Because you can!
Lesson #1: “Why not me?” Realize that you are already good enough. Give yourself permission to realize that you have everything you need for your dream, and start from there. Give it a shot!
When you’ve tackled the first lesson, the next sweetie comes around the corner which will rock your world.
Lesson #2: Ask!
Realize that there are so many people that understand you and who are willing to help you. But guess what, they cannot look into your head! I dare you to ask. You will be amazed how many people will love to help you.
With every enterprise you will ever take in your life you will soon realize that you need help.
If you find yourself at crossroads and need advice, if you don’t have the money to keep going, or if you just need someone to listen.
Imagine you had a company and a young fellow with a vivid spirit and ambition would come to you and ask you for advice. Wouldn’t you give it to him?
Imagine your daughter would come to you and ask you for money, because she wants to start an organization to help people. Wouldn’t you give it to her?
You exactly know the feeling when you help people.
It feels good, huh?
It goes much deeper than that.
IT FEELS GREAT!
Guess what: as much as you love to help people, people love to help you.
Give people the opportunity to help you. They will thank you for that.
And ultimately they will help you.
Lost but not least –
Lesson #3: Learn to say No!
Be it the negative voice in your head, a request from a friend or a time sucking activity such as facebook.
When you want to accomplish your dream, learn to say No more often.
And this is not a bad thing.
Many people mistake saying No with being selfish.
A common mistake I often made and still make to this day.
The ability to say no stems from self-love and self-care.
I’m not saying you should not help your friend when he or she needs it or that you should not go out anymore.
All I’m saying is you should start saying No a little bit more often.
Probably you went out the fifth time in a row when all you really wanted to do was write down that idea you had for your book.
Or you answer any request people make and find yourself irritated that you never find time for yourself and what matters to you.
If that is the case, it is time to embrace the Power of Saying No.
Start simple by telling your friend next time that you would love to go out with him or would love to help her now, but you have to finish this thing first and then you will attend him or her.
It’s a paradox, but the more you say no, the more people respect you.
Sounds weird, doesn’t it?
It’s simply because you broadcast that you have self-worth.
In all our honesty, deep down within we admire people who have self-worth and we would love to have some more of it, too.
And when this person who doesn’t have always time makes time for us, we feel extremely grateful and share real quality time together.
Instead of looking up to this person, be that person.
People will thank you for it.
And your future self will thank you the most for it.
Real Story: How 3 Lessons Changed My Life
I was fortunate to make a dream become a reality this week.
All my life at uni I was looking up to those people who had a scholarship.
“If I only had it, too!”
Over the last years, that voice kept singing in my head over, and over, and over again.
But I didn’t feel good enough.
And because of that I didn’t want to ask people for help or information, because I thought it would’ve been useless.
And I kept going out and doing things that were fun, but didn’t matter to me as much as receiving that scholarship I desired to have.
One day, I made a change.
Instead of asking “Who am I to receive a scholarship?” I asked myself “After all I’ve done, WHY NOT ME?”
That idea thrilled me.
So I got up, got out of my house and was willing to get something.
I asked people who had scholarships.
I asked the financing counselor at my uni how to apply for a scholarship.
I asked my professors to write a commendatory letter.
I asked a really good friend to help me write my application for a scholarship.
And then I said no.
No to going out when I felt I had to work on my application.
No to my doubts I was not good enough.
No to time sucking activities.
And I waited.
And waited. And waited.
Yesterday, I received a letter from my uni.
My heart jumped and raced on a highway.
This was the moment of truth.
I took a deep breath, opened the envelope. And there it was, written in magical letters:
“Hereby we would like to thank you for your interest in our scholarship program, and are glad to announce that you have been accpeted for the scholarship program.”
I was at loss of words. I jumped and cried out loud, embraced in bliss and filled with gratitude.
Here I was, holding in my hand evidence for something I once thought impossible to be possible.
All because of three little things I did differently this time.