My Little Secret

I want to share a little secret with you.

I. Love. Being. Naked.

Be it sleeping naked in bed, spending the whole day naked with your partner, or running shirtless around.

Whatever you may think.

I don’t care.

It feels so good to be naked.

It feels just like it should be.

I feel connected to my own nature and everything that is around me when I’m naked.

I truely love being naked.

Especially when it comes to one thing.

Authenticity.

Being authentic means to know who you are and to communicate it ithrough your thoughts, words and actions to the world.

Give the world all you’ve got.

But still, why do we hold it back?

Why do we sometimes hang out with people we don’t like? Why do we agree to appointments we don’t want to be in? Why do we say ‘I love you’, even though our hearts don’t say so? Why do we choose a job we hate to our guts and leave our passions on the floor?

It has one word.

And it has taken on like a virus throughout society.

Do you want to know what it is?

Conformity.

We conform in our lives, because not being able to determine all consequences of our actions scares us – sometimes to death.

Conformity means security to many of us. But there is one little thing your parents might not have told you about security.

It is an illusion.

We all are part in this thing called Life. And it is a wild thing. Sometimes it scares you, other times it embraces you, then it knocks your feet off the ground, and eventually it amazes you with its miracles and its beauty.

Today you live, you may have a partner, you may have a house, you may have a well paid job which allows you to live relatively on high standards.

Tomorrow you may lose one thing or lose it all. You may suffer a heart attack, your partner may cheat on you, catastrophes may destroy your house and an economical crisis may melt down your job like a fire burns down a cigarette in your mouth. It may go all to smoke.

And these are not special cases. These are things that happen to thousands and millions of people every day.

So why hold anything back?

It is time that you kick out the word “security” out of your vocabulary and start to embrace one thing.

Vulnerability.

Embrace your vulnerability and jump headfirst into the waves of life.

Be completely you and tell people how much you care about them.

Go out and tell the cashier what a beautiful smile she has.

Kick out those poisonous people out of your life and spend more time with the ones who nurture you.

Go and do something that matters to you.

And most importantly say out loud what you believe in.

Let every thought, every word, and every action be a witness to what you believe in.

These are signs. And we live in times where people seek desperately for people who believe in what they believe in.

When you begin to be a little more authentic each day, magical things begin to happen:

People respect you for who you are. People who believe in what you believe in begin to stream into your life. People begin to see the change they wanted to see in the world.

Through You.

More Sex. More Love. More Freedom. More Happiness. Countless opportunities.

Isn’t it all you want to have?

Give the world all you’ve got and start being more authentic.

Be naked.

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3 Revolutionary Lessons I Learnt This Week

Do you know these times when just everything falls into place? When so much good comes into your life that you don’t know what to say?

I must share something with you today.

After this incredible week I learnt three important lessons we all must learn in life.

Here they are, sweet and simple.

3 Lessons

You and I have dreams.

You and I have ambitions.

And you and I have doubts.

Doubts of ever making it, doubts of our goals, doubts of ourselves.

Do you also know these doubts?

Now let me tell you something.

All these doubts have one common denominator.

It’s the FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH.

We all are guilty of this, and I fail at overcoming it many many times.

“Who am I to give advice? Who am I to build a business? Who am I to write a book? Who am I to change something in the world?”

Do these questions resonate with you?

Alright.

Now stop.

Take a deep breath.

And give me an honest answer:

WHY NOT YOU?

Why not you to build a business? You have ideas, experiences, skills and talents nobody else has in this world. Go and create something to add value to the world! Because you can!

Why not you to write a book? You have a voice nobody else has. You have a view that’s refreshing to this world. Go and write that book! The world waits to hear your voice and your song needs to be sung! Go do it. Because you can!

Why not you to coach someone? You have a story nobody else has and experiences nobody else has made. To you you may not seem great enough to give someone advice, but there is this one person who looks up to you, a person who needs advice you have. Go and share it. Because you can!

Lesson #1: “Why not me?” Realize that you are already good enough. Give yourself permission to realize that you have everything you need for your dream, and start from there. Give it a shot!

When you’ve tackled the first lesson, the next sweetie comes around the corner which will rock your world.

Lesson #2: Ask!

Realize that there are so many people that understand you and who are willing to help you. But guess what, they cannot look into your head! I dare you to ask. You will be amazed how many people will love to help you.

With every enterprise you will ever take in your life you will soon realize that you need help.

If you find yourself at crossroads and need advice, if you don’t have the money to keep going, or if you just need someone to listen.

ASK PEOPLE.

Imagine you had a company and a young fellow with a vivid spirit and ambition would come to you and ask you for advice. Wouldn’t you give it to him?

Imagine your daughter would come to you and ask you for money, because she wants to start an organization to help people. Wouldn’t you give it to her?

You exactly know the feeling when you help people.

It feels good, huh?

It goes much deeper than that.

IT FEELS GREAT!

Guess what: as much as you love to help people, people love to help you.

Give people the opportunity to help you. They will thank you for that.

And ultimately they will help you.

Lost but not least –

Lesson #3: Learn to say No!

Be it the negative voice in your head, a request from a friend or a time sucking activity such as facebook.

When you want to accomplish your dream, learn to say No more often.

And this is not a bad thing.

Many people mistake saying No with being selfish.

A common mistake I often made and still make to this day.

The ability to say no stems from self-love and self-care.

I’m not saying you should not help your friend when he or she needs it or that you should not go out anymore.

All I’m saying is you should start saying No a little bit more often.

Probably you went out the fifth time in a row when all you really wanted to do was write down that idea you had for your book.

Or you answer any request people make and find yourself irritated that you never find time for yourself and what matters to you.

If that is the case, it is time to embrace the Power of Saying No.

Start simple by telling your friend next time that you would love to go out with him or would love to help her now, but you have to finish this thing first and then you will attend him or her.

It’s a paradox, but the more you say no, the more people respect you.

Sounds weird, doesn’t it?

It’s simply because you broadcast that you have self-worth.

In all our honesty, deep down within we admire people who have self-worth and we would love to have some more of it, too.

And when this person who doesn’t have always time makes time for us, we feel extremely grateful and share real quality time together.

Instead of looking up to this person, be that person.

People will thank you for it.

And your future self will thank you the most for it.

Real Story: How 3 Lessons Changed My Life

I was fortunate to make a dream become a reality this week.

All my life at uni I was looking up to those people who had a scholarship.

“If I only had it, too!”

Over the last years, that voice kept singing in my head over, and over, and over again.

But I didn’t feel good enough.

And because of that I didn’t want to ask people for help or information, because I thought it would’ve been useless.

And I kept going out and doing things that were fun, but didn’t matter to me as much as receiving that scholarship I desired to have.

One day, I made a change.

Instead of asking “Who am I to receive a scholarship?” I asked myself “After all I’ve done, WHY NOT ME?”

That idea thrilled me.

So I got up, got out of my house and was willing to get something.

I asked people who had scholarships.

I asked the financing counselor at my uni how to apply for a scholarship.

I asked my professors to write a commendatory letter.

I asked a really good friend to help me write my application for a scholarship.

And then I said no.

No to going out when I felt I had to work on my application.

No to my doubts I was not good enough.

No to time sucking activities.

I applied.

And I waited.

And waited. And waited.

Yesterday, I received a letter from my uni.

My heart jumped and raced on a highway.

This was the moment of truth.

I took a deep breath, opened the envelope. And there it was, written in magical letters:

“Hereby we would like to thank you for your interest in our scholarship program, and are glad to announce that you have been accpeted for the scholarship program.”

I was at loss of words. I jumped and cried out loud, embraced in bliss and filled with gratitude.

Here I was, holding in my hand evidence for something I once thought impossible to be possible.

All because of three little things I did differently this time.

Thank you.

In gratitude-

Lukas

Let’s Talk For a Second!

As mentioned lately I found a true gem in my community. With the utmost probability you can find it also in your city.

Talk is about Toastmasters.

It was true for me and it may be true for you, if I say that especially one question may arise.

Is Toastmasters the right thing for me?

Only you can answer the question for yourself. But here are some good hints that it is:

Do you feel misunderstood?

Are you happy with your communication skills?

Could you improve your communication skills more?

If you affirmed these questions, then, by all means, the answer is

YES, YES and YES.

Communication is the ultimate skill you must learn to live the life you want. It’s good that you have great ideas, but are you able to communicate them with the world?

Revolutions of all kind – personal, social, political, you name it – originated in one person. But it didn’t end there, right? From Abraham Lincoln, to Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr., they all had an IDEA that changed the world, but change was made by the people they inspired to follow. The connecting point between your idea and the revolution you want to see in the world is your ability to COMMUNICATE it.

Whether you want to bring world peace, build your own business or work on your marriage, you will not accomplish it alone. Your success depends solely on your ability to connect with people.

Failure is done alone. Success is made together.

I’ve been studying communication and social dynamics for quite a long time now, yet have I never encountered an environment that strengthens communcation skills in such an extent that Toastmasters does.

Here you have the right people you want to have in your corner.

People who believe life is a party. People who want to make the most of you. People who believe in you.

Whether you are a shy person who is afraid to talk to people or whether you are an outspoken person who wants to communicate more effectively, Toastmasters is your place to be.

I can hardly wait for the next meeting. Can you?

Take the next step. Your partner, the world, your future self will thank you for it.

Happy speaking!

-Lukas

Toast to the Toasties!

We all have dreams. And we all look for people who believe in what we believe in.

But how do we find them?

Let me share with you a personal story how I found a true gem to surround myself with passionate people that you can also find in your town.

Yesterday was the day.

I finally made it to the club I wanted to go for a long time.

What I found totally BLEW MY MIND.

As I entered the room, the energy was mind-boggling. The sort of encouraging and pulsating energy that makes you come alive. Positivity and encouragement just by being in this room were so palpable, I could literally grasp it with my hands.

I never saw a group of people so diverse yet together: from early 20s to late 60s, from professors, political representatives, lawyers and doctors to blue-collar workers, students and retired persons you could find people from all different aspects of life and society.

It didn’t matter who you are or where you come from: the only thing that mattered was you and I who come together for the same purpose to make the best of ourselves, help each other the best we can and have a good time together. No I, no You, no But.

Just We.

Talk is about Toastmasters!

You want to improve your communication skills?

You want to improve your public speaking an leadership skills?

Then you better check out your local Toastmasters club, as it gives you abundant opportunity to improve in those areas.

And here comes the best part.It’s so much FUN!

From comic to breathtaking speeches, you get all kinds of speeches. Laughs are guaranteed!

Don’t be afraid to go there! All members have been in the same spot as you are – and talked themselves out more than you do. 🙂

Go there and see the magic unfold.

My toast goes to all the Toasties in the world!

Happy speaking!

-Lukas

 

 

 

 

 

Stop Overdoing It!

Can personal development be bad for you?

Not exactly. But you can. Once you become obsessed with personal development.

On the way to become your best self you take in all those principals from experts like a food-addicted person eats muffins, eggs, anything for breakfast. You clutter all those promising principles

within, thinking that knowing about them will make you your best person.

Let me share you something:

Personal development is supposed to make you better. It is not supposed to make you best.

Because you never will. Perfection does not exist.

Take your personal education seriously, but don’t become too rigid and overdo it. Otherwise it will harm you more than it will do you good.

As any other obsession, it will feed on you and start becoming the only vision you see life through. I can tell you this, because I’ve been through this.

What became an enrichment in your life, becomes a burden that pulls you down.

“I’m falling back!“

“I am supposed to be better by now!“

“Why am I not feeling better?“

You stop living your life and start living a life like a robot – lifeless, sterile, void of feelings.

When you try to opperate on principles all the time, you try to behave like robot.

Which you aren’t.

You are a human being that laughs, cries, falls, lives with all its strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths and weaknesses make you beautiful. So embrace them.

Yes, your life may need some guidance. And you do very well with your intention to make it better. So put on a corsette.

But don’t pull it too tightly.

Life, happiness, creativity – it won’t flow when you limit yourself too much.

Take the first step and work on yourself.

One change at a time.

When you succeed in one change, move on to the next.

And then to the next. And the next.

As soon as you learn about something worth applying, work on that change only until you succeed.

During that process, allow yourself to fail. Fall out of line.

Take the first step, grow, fail, fall, smile, get up again and move on.

Enjoy the process of falling back and getting better. It makes you the better person.

Every once in a while, take a moment and look back.

Look how far you’ve got.

This is how great you are.

-Lukas

How Do You Get Through Your Day?

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Whenever you have a rough day, watch this.

Richie’s story touched me deeply. I bet it did the same with you.

Next time you and I complain, put up your hand and start counting your blessings:

1) I’m alive.

2) I have family.

3) I got my health.

4) If I can look up I can get up.

5) The best is yet to come.

If someone tells you you can’t do it, show them how you do it. Find your Richie Parker within.

Don’t listen to people who try to tell you what you can do and what not.

Impossible is nothing.

Do your next step toward your goal today and show the world that you are possible.

Live fully, laugh often, choose courageously.

-Lukas

When Was Last Time You Did Something First Time?

Let’s go on a journey.

Unwritten by life, imagine you were a child again.  Do you remember the time you got your first bicycle?

Promising it had an enticing magic to you that you had to jump on. It was irresistible. Sure, you were afraid to fall, but the allure soon got hold of you and you would not stop getting on that bike until you could ride it as all the other kids. You just wanted to be as free as them.

All the curiosity coming alive and the fire of excitement burning in your chest everytime you found something new in the world. Do you remember it?

When was the last time you felt the same?

Do you feel that itch to start something new?

Maybe it’s to start your own business! Or maybe it’s playing guitar in a band!

I know, I know. You may be in lack of experience, never having had a guitar in your hand.

But today is not about yesterday. Today is about you. Today is the day you take the first step to create the future you want to see.

Imagine what difference it would make in your life if you would know how to play guitar or know how to connect with anyone on a deeper level. Imagine you learned to live your passion and get paid for it! How much more rewarding that life would be!

I hope you are curious for that life, because I know you are hungry.

Bring out the curiosity to learn something new and be excited for the rewards it will bring along!

Curiosity combined with excitement brings adventure.

And in every beginning there is a magic,
that protects us and helps us to live.

Hermann Hesse

Learning something new is the beginning to become something more we already are. And do you know what the most beautiful thing about learning is? Learning is SO MUCH fun!

Learning new things is an exciting journey. And as with every other journey, you determine how far you want to go.

It is not necessary to become a professional in every area that matters to you. To most people the magic of feeling fulfilled already happens when we become expert enough for something that matters to us: to be able to play our favourite song on a guitar, or to be able to order a meal at a restaurant in Japanese.

Learning a new language, learning to play a new instrument or developing a new mindset is a journey. To be vulnerable again, to rise and fall, and get up again, and discover places you haven’t seen before is so rewarding. Whatever skill you decide for, the journey towards it will enrich your life. Enjoy the process.

Scratch that itch you have and dive into new territory!

Give yourself permission to be a beginner at something. Let next time be the first time for something new!

What was the Last Thing You did Something for the first time?

How to Boost Your Happiness – INSTANTLY

Do you know the feeling when someone asks you for your help, be it a beggar asking you for spare money or a stranger asking you to carry something, and you say no? How do you feel? As you walk away, do you also feel detached inside, a feeling of dullness coming over you, covering your sense of well-being like clouds cover the sun?

I do. Because every opportunity you’ve missed to help, is your missed opportunity that you could’ve made the world better, and yourself happier.

That’s why I created a new habit.

“Everytime someone asks me for help, I give it to him or her, freely and wholeheartedly.”

That’s it.

Everytime someone asks me for money, I give it to him. Everytime someone asks me for advice, I share it with him. Everytime someone has a troubled mind and needs someone to listen to, I take time and listen. And even when I reckon I don’t have time, I try to spare at least a second. Then I look the person in the eye, give away my smile, and say sincerely that I would love to help, but unfortunately need to go.

We all have our own troubles and we all fight our own wars within. To give someone your time and just listen is the greatest gift you can make any person.

So share! Because as the saying goes: “sharing is caring”.

Since I learnt the lesson of sharing, I am a much happier person, everyday.

And do you know what’s best about it? Even if you’re unhappy and you give, you will become happier.

Next time you complain about all the negativity around you, give your positivity to the people. If people have been rude to you, give them your kindness. Whatever you wish for, be the change you want to see in the world.

“Happiness is the only thing that doubles when you share it”

Albert Schweitzer

Try to become more aware of opportunites you could help everyday.

If you see an old woman carrying heavy bags across the street, go there and help her without asking. If you have any knowledge others would love to know about, share it with them. If you see a child being bullied, go there and help him out. If you see an adult in grief sitting on a bench, sit down and just listen. I guarantee, you will be much happier than you were before.

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Because at the end of your life it will not be the cars you drove and the money you had on your bank account. At the end of your life it will be about the moments that took your breath away and the lifes you touched.

What do you have that you could give away?

Do You Know the Day That Changes Your Life?

The day that changes your life.

Without exception, it is the day most of us anticipate.

To some people it is the day they gain their first million dollars. To others it is the day they get the position they always desired. And to some others it is the day they become free, financially and emotionally.You get to see and feel what you always desired to have.

But are these really the moments that change your life forever? They seem so on the surface, but in reality they aren’t. They are nothing but the result of a change that happened at one day of a person’s life who achieves his desire of becoming happy, free or wealthy.

These results will never occur until you had that one day.

The day you realize that you are capable of far more than you ever believed.

The day you realize that you are destined to be more than you always told yourself to be. The day that you start to believe in yourself.

Throughout history, there are numerous accounts of great men and women that tell the same story.

It was early in the 19th century in London when a young boy put labels on bottles in a rat-infested warehouse and slept in a murky attic with two boys. He didn’t have any self-confidence in his writing that one night he sneaked out of the house so no one could see him send his first manuscript to the editors. Days went by when the boy didn’t receive any answer and the cloud of doubt was weighing heavier with every day on the boy’s shoulders. Until one day; The day when the story got accepted by an editor. The editor didn’t pay the boy anything. He praised the boy by printing his story and gave him something more valuable than any shilling he could pay him: the belief in himself and in his art. Wouldn’t it have been for the praise and recognition he received from getting one story in print, we wouldn’t know about this boy today. His name was Charles Dickens.

One day a teacher asked Les Brown to answer a question on the board. After Les repeatedly told his teacher that he couldn’t do it because he was labelled emotionally mental retard by the doctors, his teacher said something that would change Les’ life forever:

“Don’t ever say it again. Someone else’s opinion about you does not have to become your reality.”

From that day, it didn’t anymore. Les took out into the world and changed millions of lives by his motivational message that you can become everything in life you desire.

A 6th grade teacher gave Jay Z his love for words by telling him that he was smart. From that day he believed her and his whole life took a new direction.

“I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.” – Abraham Lincoln

If someone else’s positive belief in a person turned an Abraham Lincoln or Jay Z into what they have become, what could a positive belief change within you?

In fact, this happened to me, too. Let me share with you a personal story.

Growing up I had no self-confidence and many times created my sense of self from the eyes of other people. Because I listened to the negative comments of people I made their opinion my own reality. But there were few teachers who believed in me. Amongst them was my gym class and German teacher Mr. Breick, whose words planted the belief in me that I am by far greater than I thought I was at that time.

One day playing basketball in gym class I was surrounded by many members of the other team, throwing a 3 pointer from the corner of the field or losing the ball to the team being my only options. Throwing a 3-pointer was something I have seldomly done before, not thinking about that tremendous distance I was staying at in  that moment. But I didn’t want to disappoint my team. I took all my courage, closed my eyes and hoped that shot would lead to something great. As I landed with my feet on the ground I saw the ball going perfectly through the net. What happened the next moment would change my world forever. All of a sudden Mr. Breick jumped off the bench, with his fist raised in the sky, shouting to me “I KNEW you can do that, Lukas!”, filling the whole gym with his enthusiasm. From that moment I was on fire.
I kept nailing one shot after another, Mr. Breick shouting at me from the side with shouts of the most profound belief I have ever witnessed before. That this teacher kept applauding me in front of the whole class and believing in me when I didn’t was the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten. From that day I would not let my teacher down.

I didn’t realize it back then, but that day changed my life forever.

The lives of millions of people changed because at some point in their lives there was a person who saw something in them they didn’t see in themselves.

What is the lesson we must draw from that?

It is of crucial importance that we see possibilities in people. Not only is it important that we see these possibilities, but also that we utter our belief to these people. Because some of our words may be the ones that will bring a next Lincoln into life.

Because this is about your day, how could I leave you without a special? So here’s your task for today:

Think about a person close to you whom you always admired but never told him or her about. Think about a person within whom you saw something greater than that person saw within himself or herself at that time.

Write down the name of that person with a specific characteristic you admire a lot about. It may be his writing skills, or it may be her ability to create deep connections with people. Pick up the phone and call that person. Tell him or her you want to do something exciting and meet together.  Get together with that person and tell that tiny extraordinary something you never told him or her before.

The philosopher John Dewey said that the deepest urge in human nature is the ‘desire to be important’. Show the person next to you that what he does is important to you. Show the person that what he does matters.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all believed more in ourselves. How far could we get as individuals and how far would the world be? Contribute your part to that and start to tell people that you believe in them.

You will be surprised how much people long for belief in themselves. Be their angel and pick them up when they need you, because the best thing you can teach a person is not a specific knowledge or formula. The greatest gift you can make a person is to rediscover the belief in himself.

It is not the day you open your own business that changes your life and it is not the day you win the big cup.

The day that changes your life is the day you realize that you are possible.

To your greatness! Let today be an expression of your best self!

Lukas