Stop Overdoing It!

Can personal development be bad for you?

Not exactly. But you can. Once you become obsessed with personal development.

On the way to become your best self you take in all those principals from experts like a food-addicted person eats muffins, eggs, anything for breakfast. You clutter all those promising principles

within, thinking that knowing about them will make you your best person.

Let me share you something:

Personal development is supposed to make you better. It is not supposed to make you best.

Because you never will. Perfection does not exist.

Take your personal education seriously, but don’t become too rigid and overdo it. Otherwise it will harm you more than it will do you good.

As any other obsession, it will feed on you and start becoming the only vision you see life through. I can tell you this, because I’ve been through this.

What became an enrichment in your life, becomes a burden that pulls you down.

“I’m falling back!“

“I am supposed to be better by now!“

“Why am I not feeling better?“

You stop living your life and start living a life like a robot – lifeless, sterile, void of feelings.

When you try to opperate on principles all the time, you try to behave like robot.

Which you aren’t.

You are a human being that laughs, cries, falls, lives with all its strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths and weaknesses make you beautiful. So embrace them.

Yes, your life may need some guidance. And you do very well with your intention to make it better. So put on a corsette.

But don’t pull it too tightly.

Life, happiness, creativity – it won’t flow when you limit yourself too much.

Take the first step and work on yourself.

One change at a time.

When you succeed in one change, move on to the next.

And then to the next. And the next.

As soon as you learn about something worth applying, work on that change only until you succeed.

During that process, allow yourself to fail. Fall out of line.

Take the first step, grow, fail, fall, smile, get up again and move on.

Enjoy the process of falling back and getting better. It makes you the better person.

Every once in a while, take a moment and look back.

Look how far you’ve got.

This is how great you are.

-Lukas

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Do You Know the Day That Changes Your Life?

The day that changes your life.

Without exception, it is the day most of us anticipate.

To some people it is the day they gain their first million dollars. To others it is the day they get the position they always desired. And to some others it is the day they become free, financially and emotionally.You get to see and feel what you always desired to have.

But are these really the moments that change your life forever? They seem so on the surface, but in reality they aren’t. They are nothing but the result of a change that happened at one day of a person’s life who achieves his desire of becoming happy, free or wealthy.

These results will never occur until you had that one day.

The day you realize that you are capable of far more than you ever believed.

The day you realize that you are destined to be more than you always told yourself to be. The day that you start to believe in yourself.

Throughout history, there are numerous accounts of great men and women that tell the same story.

It was early in the 19th century in London when a young boy put labels on bottles in a rat-infested warehouse and slept in a murky attic with two boys. He didn’t have any self-confidence in his writing that one night he sneaked out of the house so no one could see him send his first manuscript to the editors. Days went by when the boy didn’t receive any answer and the cloud of doubt was weighing heavier with every day on the boy’s shoulders. Until one day; The day when the story got accepted by an editor. The editor didn’t pay the boy anything. He praised the boy by printing his story and gave him something more valuable than any shilling he could pay him: the belief in himself and in his art. Wouldn’t it have been for the praise and recognition he received from getting one story in print, we wouldn’t know about this boy today. His name was Charles Dickens.

One day a teacher asked Les Brown to answer a question on the board. After Les repeatedly told his teacher that he couldn’t do it because he was labelled emotionally mental retard by the doctors, his teacher said something that would change Les’ life forever:

“Don’t ever say it again. Someone else’s opinion about you does not have to become your reality.”

From that day, it didn’t anymore. Les took out into the world and changed millions of lives by his motivational message that you can become everything in life you desire.

A 6th grade teacher gave Jay Z his love for words by telling him that he was smart. From that day he believed her and his whole life took a new direction.

“I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.” – Abraham Lincoln

If someone else’s positive belief in a person turned an Abraham Lincoln or Jay Z into what they have become, what could a positive belief change within you?

In fact, this happened to me, too. Let me share with you a personal story.

Growing up I had no self-confidence and many times created my sense of self from the eyes of other people. Because I listened to the negative comments of people I made their opinion my own reality. But there were few teachers who believed in me. Amongst them was my gym class and German teacher Mr. Breick, whose words planted the belief in me that I am by far greater than I thought I was at that time.

One day playing basketball in gym class I was surrounded by many members of the other team, throwing a 3 pointer from the corner of the field or losing the ball to the team being my only options. Throwing a 3-pointer was something I have seldomly done before, not thinking about that tremendous distance I was staying at in  that moment. But I didn’t want to disappoint my team. I took all my courage, closed my eyes and hoped that shot would lead to something great. As I landed with my feet on the ground I saw the ball going perfectly through the net. What happened the next moment would change my world forever. All of a sudden Mr. Breick jumped off the bench, with his fist raised in the sky, shouting to me “I KNEW you can do that, Lukas!”, filling the whole gym with his enthusiasm. From that moment I was on fire.
I kept nailing one shot after another, Mr. Breick shouting at me from the side with shouts of the most profound belief I have ever witnessed before. That this teacher kept applauding me in front of the whole class and believing in me when I didn’t was the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten. From that day I would not let my teacher down.

I didn’t realize it back then, but that day changed my life forever.

The lives of millions of people changed because at some point in their lives there was a person who saw something in them they didn’t see in themselves.

What is the lesson we must draw from that?

It is of crucial importance that we see possibilities in people. Not only is it important that we see these possibilities, but also that we utter our belief to these people. Because some of our words may be the ones that will bring a next Lincoln into life.

Because this is about your day, how could I leave you without a special? So here’s your task for today:

Think about a person close to you whom you always admired but never told him or her about. Think about a person within whom you saw something greater than that person saw within himself or herself at that time.

Write down the name of that person with a specific characteristic you admire a lot about. It may be his writing skills, or it may be her ability to create deep connections with people. Pick up the phone and call that person. Tell him or her you want to do something exciting and meet together.  Get together with that person and tell that tiny extraordinary something you never told him or her before.

The philosopher John Dewey said that the deepest urge in human nature is the ‘desire to be important’. Show the person next to you that what he does is important to you. Show the person that what he does matters.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all believed more in ourselves. How far could we get as individuals and how far would the world be? Contribute your part to that and start to tell people that you believe in them.

You will be surprised how much people long for belief in themselves. Be their angel and pick them up when they need you, because the best thing you can teach a person is not a specific knowledge or formula. The greatest gift you can make a person is to rediscover the belief in himself.

It is not the day you open your own business that changes your life and it is not the day you win the big cup.

The day that changes your life is the day you realize that you are possible.

To your greatness! Let today be an expression of your best self!

Lukas

Set your Sails and Go into the World

We all have dreams. And dreams are meant to  to be lived. Going abroad and travelling the world was one such dream of mine.

One day I knew it was time. So I took the reins into my hands – and set out into the world.

Many times people ask me how I did it. In the same breath they tell me that they always dreamed about going abroad but considered themselves too afraid of doing it. Instead of enjoying the itch and digging deeper into their dream they drown that exact dream with their doubts the moment they think about it.

I dedicate today’s post to the doubter and waverer inside all of us. If you find yourself eaten by doubt and dragged by fear, it is time to breathe some fresh air. This is for you.

Setting Sails

How did my journey start?

Fairly simple: By doing one first step. I decided to set out into the world and bring my life with everything I was at that time to a halt. I wanted a break from life and embrace Life.

Before you set out for a journey you may not know the course. Know that I also did not know my course. Yet that does not matter. The only thing that matters is your destination. Once you know where you want to go, Life will guide you exactly to where you want to go. And if you don’t know where you want to go, knowing where you don’t want to go can be just as important. Every situation you come into, be it better or worse in your eyes, will be the best situation you can be in at that very moment.  In every moment Life wants to teach you something – embrace it and listen to its whisper.

Truth be told my destination was Life. I set out into the world to become Life’s best student. As I was trying to shoot for the stars I landed on the moon.

Going into the World

Going abroad I met  the most inspiring people I was fortunate to cross my path with. A big majority of people you meet travelling and living abroad are the positive people: people who speak of opportunity, people who are hungry for the world. People who settle for nothing but the best. Many of these people became close friends of mine and I would not trade our friendship for anything in the world.

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Going abroad I saw places of beauty I never thought I would see in my life. Places of colour and variety that were so vibrant, their beauty sang right to my heart. The moments that took my breath away were infinite, yet showed they all to me what Life has in it.

Going abroad I made experiences I would not have made staying home. The world embraced me with arms wide open. Shaped in light, I got molded by Life.

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Going abroad I can truely say: I’ve found my better self.

Of course, sometimes times can get rough. But if I’m given the choice to have rough times back home or in a different country lying under palm trees at the beach savoring the richness of Life I always would choose the latter. Wouldn’t you?

Embrace the Lessons of Life

1. Decide for your dream and simply do the first step. It’s always easier than you think. Speaking for myself, it was simply attending an information evening of a travel agency. Compared to the fear I had before doing this first step, the rest took care almost by itself.

2. Don’t spend your life waiting, but spend your life living. Don’t wait your dreams to be lived, because they will not be realised on their own. Your dreams are nothing without their best ingredient, they are nothing without you. You are the gold and it is you who makes your dreams shine.

Decide to live your life living and to you everything will be given. Do the first step and life will take care of you – if you are willing to.

An Ode to Your Greatness

I’m not sure if you are aware of this, but let me tell you something:

You are bigger than life itself.

You’ve got gifts that no one else does.                                                                                   You’ve got dreams that no one else is supposed to live.                                                          You’ve got all greatness you will ever need within you, for you are great beyond measure.

Embrace your uniqueness, for it is your gift to the world.                                                       The sound of your laugh is the music in this world.                                                                 So laugh as often as you can, for without your laugh this world loses its melody.

Find your talents and dig deeper,                                                                                             Create your dreams and dream bigger,                                                                                   For your playing small does not serve the world.                                                                     And take care of your life, for what you take care of is going to take care of you.

The World waits for you to be redefined through your eyes. What are you waiting for? Your life is now. Make the most of it – now.