Can personal development be bad for you?
Not exactly. But you can. Once you become obsessed with personal development.
On the way to become your best self you take in all those principals from experts like a food-addicted person eats muffins, eggs, anything for breakfast. You clutter all those promising principles
within, thinking that knowing about them will make you your best person.
Let me share you something:
Personal development is supposed to make you better. It is not supposed to make you best.
Because you never will. Perfection does not exist.
Take your personal education seriously, but don’t become too rigid and overdo it. Otherwise it will harm you more than it will do you good.
As any other obsession, it will feed on you and start becoming the only vision you see life through. I can tell you this, because I’ve been through this.
What became an enrichment in your life, becomes a burden that pulls you down.
“I’m falling back!“
“I am supposed to be better by now!“
“Why am I not feeling better?“
You stop living your life and start living a life like a robot – lifeless, sterile, void of feelings.
When you try to opperate on principles all the time, you try to behave like robot.
Which you aren’t.
You are a human being that laughs, cries, falls, lives with all its strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths and weaknesses make you beautiful. So embrace them.
Yes, your life may need some guidance. And you do very well with your intention to make it better. So put on a corsette.
But don’t pull it too tightly.
Life, happiness, creativity – it won’t flow when you limit yourself too much.
Take the first step and work on yourself.
One change at a time.
When you succeed in one change, move on to the next.
And then to the next. And the next.
As soon as you learn about something worth applying, work on that change only until you succeed.
During that process, allow yourself to fail. Fall out of line.
Take the first step, grow, fail, fall, smile, get up again and move on.
Enjoy the process of falling back and getting better. It makes you the better person.
Every once in a while, take a moment and look back.
Look how far you’ve got.
This is how great you are.