3 Revolutionary Lessons I Learnt This Week

Do you know these times when just everything falls into place? When so much good comes into your life that you don’t know what to say?

I must share something with you today.

After this incredible week I learnt three important lessons we all must learn in life.

Here they are, sweet and simple.

3 Lessons

You and I have dreams.

You and I have ambitions.

And you and I have doubts.

Doubts of ever making it, doubts of our goals, doubts of ourselves.

Do you also know these doubts?

Now let me tell you something.

All these doubts have one common denominator.

It’s the FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH.

We all are guilty of this, and I fail at overcoming it many many times.

“Who am I to give advice? Who am I to build a business? Who am I to write a book? Who am I to change something in the world?”

Do these questions resonate with you?

Alright.

Now stop.

Take a deep breath.

And give me an honest answer:

WHY NOT YOU?

Why not you to build a business? You have ideas, experiences, skills and talents nobody else has in this world. Go and create something to add value to the world! Because you can!

Why not you to write a book? You have a voice nobody else has. You have a view that’s refreshing to this world. Go and write that book! The world waits to hear your voice and your song needs to be sung! Go do it. Because you can!

Why not you to coach someone? You have a story nobody else has and experiences nobody else has made. To you you may not seem great enough to give someone advice, but there is this one person who looks up to you, a person who needs advice you have. Go and share it. Because you can!

Lesson #1: “Why not me?” Realize that you are already good enough. Give yourself permission to realize that you have everything you need for your dream, and start from there. Give it a shot!

When you’ve tackled the first lesson, the next sweetie comes around the corner which will rock your world.

Lesson #2: Ask!

Realize that there are so many people that understand you and who are willing to help you. But guess what, they cannot look into your head! I dare you to ask. You will be amazed how many people will love to help you.

With every enterprise you will ever take in your life you will soon realize that you need help.

If you find yourself at crossroads and need advice, if you don’t have the money to keep going, or if you just need someone to listen.

ASK PEOPLE.

Imagine you had a company and a young fellow with a vivid spirit and ambition would come to you and ask you for advice. Wouldn’t you give it to him?

Imagine your daughter would come to you and ask you for money, because she wants to start an organization to help people. Wouldn’t you give it to her?

You exactly know the feeling when you help people.

It feels good, huh?

It goes much deeper than that.

IT FEELS GREAT!

Guess what: as much as you love to help people, people love to help you.

Give people the opportunity to help you. They will thank you for that.

And ultimately they will help you.

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Lesson #3: Learn to say No!

Be it the negative voice in your head, a request from a friend or a time sucking activity such as facebook.

When you want to accomplish your dream, learn to say No more often.

And this is not a bad thing.

Many people mistake saying No with being selfish.

A common mistake I often made and still make to this day.

The ability to say no stems from self-love and self-care.

I’m not saying you should not help your friend when he or she needs it or that you should not go out anymore.

All I’m saying is you should start saying No a little bit more often.

Probably you went out the fifth time in a row when all you really wanted to do was write down that idea you had for your book.

Or you answer any request people make and find yourself irritated that you never find time for yourself and what matters to you.

If that is the case, it is time to embrace the Power of Saying No.

Start simple by telling your friend next time that you would love to go out with him or would love to help her now, but you have to finish this thing first and then you will attend him or her.

It’s a paradox, but the more you say no, the more people respect you.

Sounds weird, doesn’t it?

It’s simply because you broadcast that you have self-worth.

In all our honesty, deep down within we admire people who have self-worth and we would love to have some more of it, too.

And when this person who doesn’t have always time makes time for us, we feel extremely grateful and share real quality time together.

Instead of looking up to this person, be that person.

People will thank you for it.

And your future self will thank you the most for it.

Real Story: How 3 Lessons Changed My Life

I was fortunate to make a dream become a reality this week.

All my life at uni I was looking up to those people who had a scholarship.

“If I only had it, too!”

Over the last years, that voice kept singing in my head over, and over, and over again.

But I didn’t feel good enough.

And because of that I didn’t want to ask people for help or information, because I thought it would’ve been useless.

And I kept going out and doing things that were fun, but didn’t matter to me as much as receiving that scholarship I desired to have.

One day, I made a change.

Instead of asking “Who am I to receive a scholarship?” I asked myself “After all I’ve done, WHY NOT ME?”

That idea thrilled me.

So I got up, got out of my house and was willing to get something.

I asked people who had scholarships.

I asked the financing counselor at my uni how to apply for a scholarship.

I asked my professors to write a commendatory letter.

I asked a really good friend to help me write my application for a scholarship.

And then I said no.

No to going out when I felt I had to work on my application.

No to my doubts I was not good enough.

No to time sucking activities.

I applied.

And I waited.

And waited. And waited.

Yesterday, I received a letter from my uni.

My heart jumped and raced on a highway.

This was the moment of truth.

I took a deep breath, opened the envelope. And there it was, written in magical letters:

“Hereby we would like to thank you for your interest in our scholarship program, and are glad to announce that you have been accpeted for the scholarship program.”

I was at loss of words. I jumped and cried out loud, embraced in bliss and filled with gratitude.

Here I was, holding in my hand evidence for something I once thought impossible to be possible.

All because of three little things I did differently this time.

Thank you.

In gratitude-

Lukas

Toast to the Toasties!

We all have dreams. And we all look for people who believe in what we believe in.

But how do we find them?

Let me share with you a personal story how I found a true gem to surround myself with passionate people that you can also find in your town.

Yesterday was the day.

I finally made it to the club I wanted to go for a long time.

What I found totally BLEW MY MIND.

As I entered the room, the energy was mind-boggling. The sort of encouraging and pulsating energy that makes you come alive. Positivity and encouragement just by being in this room were so palpable, I could literally grasp it with my hands.

I never saw a group of people so diverse yet together: from early 20s to late 60s, from professors, political representatives, lawyers and doctors to blue-collar workers, students and retired persons you could find people from all different aspects of life and society.

It didn’t matter who you are or where you come from: the only thing that mattered was you and I who come together for the same purpose to make the best of ourselves, help each other the best we can and have a good time together. No I, no You, no But.

Just We.

Talk is about Toastmasters!

You want to improve your communication skills?

You want to improve your public speaking an leadership skills?

Then you better check out your local Toastmasters club, as it gives you abundant opportunity to improve in those areas.

And here comes the best part.It’s so much FUN!

From comic to breathtaking speeches, you get all kinds of speeches. Laughs are guaranteed!

Don’t be afraid to go there! All members have been in the same spot as you are – and talked themselves out more than you do. 🙂

Go there and see the magic unfold.

My toast goes to all the Toasties in the world!

Happy speaking!

-Lukas

 

 

 

 

 

Learn about the Foundation of Happiness

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A friend of mine stumbled upon this highly recommending video whilst researching empathy.

Please take your time … and watch it.

When you’ve finished watching, come back.

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Isn’t that great?

Since expressing gratitude is one of the most contributing factors to overall happiness in your life, let us try it for ourselves.

1. Think of the person who has influenced you the most.
2. Write down why this person has influenced you so much.
3. Pick up the phone to call that person and read out loud what you just wrote.

The value of feelings comes from sharing them.

Of course I had to think of the person who inspired me the most.

It was my great-grandmother.

Being a young adult during Second World War in Poland, she witnessed more cruelty any heart can bear. Despite all this hardship she and her family have been through, she kept her positive spirit, enriching the lifes of people she met with her shining spirit. Where everyone else would get bitter, she would be the light that shines on even brighter. From time to time she would share stories with me I would have never thought of, stories of profound humanity and generosity in this dark times.

My great-grandmother would always see the good in people and point it out wholeheartedly in front of other people. She always saw the good in every situation.

Simply by being herself, it is her who taught me the lessons of being a good person: always seeing the good in people, sharing with others, caring for others, and being the positive change you want to see in your life.

From early on it was her who saw something in me nobody else could see and who would support me more than anyone else. I cannot think of anyone more inspirational than her.

She was a great woman.

Unfortunately she passed away 4 years ago by the age of 96. This year would be her 100th birthday – but to me she will always be my 100 year-old great-grandmother who would always remain positive with a smile on her face and change the lifes of us with her love.

I am grateful beyond measure to have met this person.

What are you grateful for today?

Seize the abundance of happiness that is around you.

Live grateful, and always wear a smile on your face.

–Lukas

When Was Last Time You Did Something First Time?

Let’s go on a journey.

Unwritten by life, imagine you were a child again.  Do you remember the time you got your first bicycle?

Promising it had an enticing magic to you that you had to jump on. It was irresistible. Sure, you were afraid to fall, but the allure soon got hold of you and you would not stop getting on that bike until you could ride it as all the other kids. You just wanted to be as free as them.

All the curiosity coming alive and the fire of excitement burning in your chest everytime you found something new in the world. Do you remember it?

When was the last time you felt the same?

Do you feel that itch to start something new?

Maybe it’s to start your own business! Or maybe it’s playing guitar in a band!

I know, I know. You may be in lack of experience, never having had a guitar in your hand.

But today is not about yesterday. Today is about you. Today is the day you take the first step to create the future you want to see.

Imagine what difference it would make in your life if you would know how to play guitar or know how to connect with anyone on a deeper level. Imagine you learned to live your passion and get paid for it! How much more rewarding that life would be!

I hope you are curious for that life, because I know you are hungry.

Bring out the curiosity to learn something new and be excited for the rewards it will bring along!

Curiosity combined with excitement brings adventure.

And in every beginning there is a magic,
that protects us and helps us to live.

Hermann Hesse

Learning something new is the beginning to become something more we already are. And do you know what the most beautiful thing about learning is? Learning is SO MUCH fun!

Learning new things is an exciting journey. And as with every other journey, you determine how far you want to go.

It is not necessary to become a professional in every area that matters to you. To most people the magic of feeling fulfilled already happens when we become expert enough for something that matters to us: to be able to play our favourite song on a guitar, or to be able to order a meal at a restaurant in Japanese.

Learning a new language, learning to play a new instrument or developing a new mindset is a journey. To be vulnerable again, to rise and fall, and get up again, and discover places you haven’t seen before is so rewarding. Whatever skill you decide for, the journey towards it will enrich your life. Enjoy the process.

Scratch that itch you have and dive into new territory!

Give yourself permission to be a beginner at something. Let next time be the first time for something new!

What was the Last Thing You did Something for the first time?

How to Boost Your Happiness – INSTANTLY

Do you know the feeling when someone asks you for your help, be it a beggar asking you for spare money or a stranger asking you to carry something, and you say no? How do you feel? As you walk away, do you also feel detached inside, a feeling of dullness coming over you, covering your sense of well-being like clouds cover the sun?

I do. Because every opportunity you’ve missed to help, is your missed opportunity that you could’ve made the world better, and yourself happier.

That’s why I created a new habit.

“Everytime someone asks me for help, I give it to him or her, freely and wholeheartedly.”

That’s it.

Everytime someone asks me for money, I give it to him. Everytime someone asks me for advice, I share it with him. Everytime someone has a troubled mind and needs someone to listen to, I take time and listen. And even when I reckon I don’t have time, I try to spare at least a second. Then I look the person in the eye, give away my smile, and say sincerely that I would love to help, but unfortunately need to go.

We all have our own troubles and we all fight our own wars within. To give someone your time and just listen is the greatest gift you can make any person.

So share! Because as the saying goes: “sharing is caring”.

Since I learnt the lesson of sharing, I am a much happier person, everyday.

And do you know what’s best about it? Even if you’re unhappy and you give, you will become happier.

Next time you complain about all the negativity around you, give your positivity to the people. If people have been rude to you, give them your kindness. Whatever you wish for, be the change you want to see in the world.

“Happiness is the only thing that doubles when you share it”

Albert Schweitzer

Try to become more aware of opportunites you could help everyday.

If you see an old woman carrying heavy bags across the street, go there and help her without asking. If you have any knowledge others would love to know about, share it with them. If you see a child being bullied, go there and help him out. If you see an adult in grief sitting on a bench, sit down and just listen. I guarantee, you will be much happier than you were before.

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Because at the end of your life it will not be the cars you drove and the money you had on your bank account. At the end of your life it will be about the moments that took your breath away and the lifes you touched.

What do you have that you could give away?

Do You Know the Day That Changes Your Life?

The day that changes your life.

Without exception, it is the day most of us anticipate.

To some people it is the day they gain their first million dollars. To others it is the day they get the position they always desired. And to some others it is the day they become free, financially and emotionally.You get to see and feel what you always desired to have.

But are these really the moments that change your life forever? They seem so on the surface, but in reality they aren’t. They are nothing but the result of a change that happened at one day of a person’s life who achieves his desire of becoming happy, free or wealthy.

These results will never occur until you had that one day.

The day you realize that you are capable of far more than you ever believed.

The day you realize that you are destined to be more than you always told yourself to be. The day that you start to believe in yourself.

Throughout history, there are numerous accounts of great men and women that tell the same story.

It was early in the 19th century in London when a young boy put labels on bottles in a rat-infested warehouse and slept in a murky attic with two boys. He didn’t have any self-confidence in his writing that one night he sneaked out of the house so no one could see him send his first manuscript to the editors. Days went by when the boy didn’t receive any answer and the cloud of doubt was weighing heavier with every day on the boy’s shoulders. Until one day; The day when the story got accepted by an editor. The editor didn’t pay the boy anything. He praised the boy by printing his story and gave him something more valuable than any shilling he could pay him: the belief in himself and in his art. Wouldn’t it have been for the praise and recognition he received from getting one story in print, we wouldn’t know about this boy today. His name was Charles Dickens.

One day a teacher asked Les Brown to answer a question on the board. After Les repeatedly told his teacher that he couldn’t do it because he was labelled emotionally mental retard by the doctors, his teacher said something that would change Les’ life forever:

“Don’t ever say it again. Someone else’s opinion about you does not have to become your reality.”

From that day, it didn’t anymore. Les took out into the world and changed millions of lives by his motivational message that you can become everything in life you desire.

A 6th grade teacher gave Jay Z his love for words by telling him that he was smart. From that day he believed her and his whole life took a new direction.

“I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down.” – Abraham Lincoln

If someone else’s positive belief in a person turned an Abraham Lincoln or Jay Z into what they have become, what could a positive belief change within you?

In fact, this happened to me, too. Let me share with you a personal story.

Growing up I had no self-confidence and many times created my sense of self from the eyes of other people. Because I listened to the negative comments of people I made their opinion my own reality. But there were few teachers who believed in me. Amongst them was my gym class and German teacher Mr. Breick, whose words planted the belief in me that I am by far greater than I thought I was at that time.

One day playing basketball in gym class I was surrounded by many members of the other team, throwing a 3 pointer from the corner of the field or losing the ball to the team being my only options. Throwing a 3-pointer was something I have seldomly done before, not thinking about that tremendous distance I was staying at in  that moment. But I didn’t want to disappoint my team. I took all my courage, closed my eyes and hoped that shot would lead to something great. As I landed with my feet on the ground I saw the ball going perfectly through the net. What happened the next moment would change my world forever. All of a sudden Mr. Breick jumped off the bench, with his fist raised in the sky, shouting to me “I KNEW you can do that, Lukas!”, filling the whole gym with his enthusiasm. From that moment I was on fire.
I kept nailing one shot after another, Mr. Breick shouting at me from the side with shouts of the most profound belief I have ever witnessed before. That this teacher kept applauding me in front of the whole class and believing in me when I didn’t was the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten. From that day I would not let my teacher down.

I didn’t realize it back then, but that day changed my life forever.

The lives of millions of people changed because at some point in their lives there was a person who saw something in them they didn’t see in themselves.

What is the lesson we must draw from that?

It is of crucial importance that we see possibilities in people. Not only is it important that we see these possibilities, but also that we utter our belief to these people. Because some of our words may be the ones that will bring a next Lincoln into life.

Because this is about your day, how could I leave you without a special? So here’s your task for today:

Think about a person close to you whom you always admired but never told him or her about. Think about a person within whom you saw something greater than that person saw within himself or herself at that time.

Write down the name of that person with a specific characteristic you admire a lot about. It may be his writing skills, or it may be her ability to create deep connections with people. Pick up the phone and call that person. Tell him or her you want to do something exciting and meet together.  Get together with that person and tell that tiny extraordinary something you never told him or her before.

The philosopher John Dewey said that the deepest urge in human nature is the ‘desire to be important’. Show the person next to you that what he does is important to you. Show the person that what he does matters.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all believed more in ourselves. How far could we get as individuals and how far would the world be? Contribute your part to that and start to tell people that you believe in them.

You will be surprised how much people long for belief in themselves. Be their angel and pick them up when they need you, because the best thing you can teach a person is not a specific knowledge or formula. The greatest gift you can make a person is to rediscover the belief in himself.

It is not the day you open your own business that changes your life and it is not the day you win the big cup.

The day that changes your life is the day you realize that you are possible.

To your greatness! Let today be an expression of your best self!

Lukas

The Dance

The bright song of birds filled the air with joy outside. It was one of those bright shiny days people tend to reminisce about when they grow up: Kids played outside with their families, couples savoured the richness of every moment as the sun bathed their shapes in light. It was a beautiful day.

Not far away was a hospital. Inside that hospital one particular person was lying.

It was you.

Imagine yourself lying after an accident for months in hospital. Rushing all your life listening to the voice of others without taking time to listen to the whisper of your heart, you find yourself lying in bed alone as you gaze outside the window.

Silence.

First there was pain. Then came struggle. Now there is peace.

All of a sudden you realize that you’ve got all the time you ever wanted for yourself. One by one, you rediscover your dreams and needs: Dreams you thought were long forgotten, needs you thought were of lower necessity. You flipped the other side of the coin and now it’s shining all for you. Accepting life, you realize: Solitude is treasure, therein lies gratitude of high measure.

Tell me, who is happier: the person who accepts the moment of being for months in hospital fully, or the person who, day in, day out, is running from deadline to deadline, regarding every moment as a means to an end and rushing desperately on vacation from one place to the next to see the most possible and trying to catch life in all those snapshots only for once.

The Miracle of Acceptance

There is a cathargic power to clarity in acceptance. Total acceptance of all there is. Forgiving means to hold no resistance towards life – to allow life to live through you. Where acceptance is, there lies clarity. And where clarity is, your way unfolds clearly in front of you. When you clench to the past or live in the future, you can’t embrace what life offers you now. Your past must not be your future. But since the future is determined by thine decisions alone you make now, you have to be in the now as present as you can.

Things are as they are. Conditions are neither good, nor bad. They all become what we call “good” or “bad” as soon as we attribute them as such in our minds. Hence the best tip for you is to accept things simply as they are. Whenever you are confronted with a  “bad” situation: hold on, become centered and accept everything as it is. Just accept. It makes you see clearer in the abundance of life you dived into long time ago and which clouds your inner eye to make a decision, any decision. Make sure to be of clear mind, that is to accept all there is first, in order to make the right decisions for yourself.

“I don’t like to indulge to everything that happens around me. I want to fight for my reality”, someone may protest now.

Acceptance doesn’t mean to indulge to everything that happens to you, but rather come to a halt and gain a neutral view of your situation in order to make the best decision for yourself. You are right, there are things you must devote your whole self to, things that demand everything from you, things  by which you truely become happy. However, in order to recognize these things, things you believe in and things worth fighting for, you must come to silence first. Remember: Where silence is, there is you. And where you are, therein is your shining star.IMG_6579

The Dancer

Life is a dancer: when you dance with him, every moment becomes ease in the duet of the two of you. It’s one of the those moments when you follow your heart and everything works out exactly as you want it. And he will kick on your feet, you will stumble and sometimes you may even fall. But as with every dance, the more your practice it, the better you and your partner become. It’s the same with life: when things get hard, don’t try to quit. It’s just a step on your foot to test how much you want to embrace the dance with life and be rewarded with its joy.

Once you step outside of this duet, life and you seperate into heavy being. When this happens, step again into duet with life. Let life be the man and let him lead you. Wherever you belong – life will bring you there.

See life as a friend. Work with him, instead of working against him.

Sing with him when he sings.

Cry with him when he cries.

Dance with him when he dances with you.

And live with him, for he lives within you.

Set your Sails and Go into the World

We all have dreams. And dreams are meant to  to be lived. Going abroad and travelling the world was one such dream of mine.

One day I knew it was time. So I took the reins into my hands – and set out into the world.

Many times people ask me how I did it. In the same breath they tell me that they always dreamed about going abroad but considered themselves too afraid of doing it. Instead of enjoying the itch and digging deeper into their dream they drown that exact dream with their doubts the moment they think about it.

I dedicate today’s post to the doubter and waverer inside all of us. If you find yourself eaten by doubt and dragged by fear, it is time to breathe some fresh air. This is for you.

Setting Sails

How did my journey start?

Fairly simple: By doing one first step. I decided to set out into the world and bring my life with everything I was at that time to a halt. I wanted a break from life and embrace Life.

Before you set out for a journey you may not know the course. Know that I also did not know my course. Yet that does not matter. The only thing that matters is your destination. Once you know where you want to go, Life will guide you exactly to where you want to go. And if you don’t know where you want to go, knowing where you don’t want to go can be just as important. Every situation you come into, be it better or worse in your eyes, will be the best situation you can be in at that very moment.  In every moment Life wants to teach you something – embrace it and listen to its whisper.

Truth be told my destination was Life. I set out into the world to become Life’s best student. As I was trying to shoot for the stars I landed on the moon.

Going into the World

Going abroad I met  the most inspiring people I was fortunate to cross my path with. A big majority of people you meet travelling and living abroad are the positive people: people who speak of opportunity, people who are hungry for the world. People who settle for nothing but the best. Many of these people became close friends of mine and I would not trade our friendship for anything in the world.

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Going abroad I saw places of beauty I never thought I would see in my life. Places of colour and variety that were so vibrant, their beauty sang right to my heart. The moments that took my breath away were infinite, yet showed they all to me what Life has in it.

Going abroad I made experiences I would not have made staying home. The world embraced me with arms wide open. Shaped in light, I got molded by Life.

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Going abroad I can truely say: I’ve found my better self.

Of course, sometimes times can get rough. But if I’m given the choice to have rough times back home or in a different country lying under palm trees at the beach savoring the richness of Life I always would choose the latter. Wouldn’t you?

Embrace the Lessons of Life

1. Decide for your dream and simply do the first step. It’s always easier than you think. Speaking for myself, it was simply attending an information evening of a travel agency. Compared to the fear I had before doing this first step, the rest took care almost by itself.

2. Don’t spend your life waiting, but spend your life living. Don’t wait your dreams to be lived, because they will not be realised on their own. Your dreams are nothing without their best ingredient, they are nothing without you. You are the gold and it is you who makes your dreams shine.

Decide to live your life living and to you everything will be given. Do the first step and life will take care of you – if you are willing to.

An Ode to Your Greatness

I’m not sure if you are aware of this, but let me tell you something:

You are bigger than life itself.

You’ve got gifts that no one else does.                                                                                   You’ve got dreams that no one else is supposed to live.                                                          You’ve got all greatness you will ever need within you, for you are great beyond measure.

Embrace your uniqueness, for it is your gift to the world.                                                       The sound of your laugh is the music in this world.                                                                 So laugh as often as you can, for without your laugh this world loses its melody.

Find your talents and dig deeper,                                                                                             Create your dreams and dream bigger,                                                                                   For your playing small does not serve the world.                                                                     And take care of your life, for what you take care of is going to take care of you.

The World waits for you to be redefined through your eyes. What are you waiting for? Your life is now. Make the most of it – now.